Human Design and Your Emotions: Are they yours, or someone else’s?
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One of the big ah ha’s that many people have when they first meet their Human Design is finding out how their emotions are defined, and how this has deeply affected them, all their life.
The energy centre in Human Design that is responsible for emotions is called the Emotional Solar Plexus. It’s located on the bottom right of the chart. And because the chart is a “not to scale” reverse image, on your human body, around about the bottom of your left rib cage.
The Emotional Solar Plexus (ESP) is one of the most powerful energy centres. It’s what we call a motor and, it’s also an awareness centre. If it’s defined, it will rule the way you make decisions.
It’s that simple. If you have emotional definition, that is, your ESP is coloured in brown, and 50% of us do, then you make your decisions with the clarity of time. We’ll go into more detail on this later.
If you have an undefined or completely open ESP then it’s likely you make your best decisions in the moment depending on what else is defined in your chart.
So let’s talk about your defined Emotional Solar Plexus:
The defined ESP is the brown coloured triangle at the bottom right of the chart. If yours is defined it means that you carry emotional energy all the time. Your emotions and their energy exists in waves. And how you are emotionally defined will determine what sort of waves you experience. Some people will have very gentle emotional waves and some will experience high highs and low lows in the way their emotions play out. Some will have each of the different types of waves and some will have one or two types.
Have you ever had that experience of buyer’s remorse? That one where you bought the dress, only to have it sit in the wardrobe unworn ever because you realised it didn’t suit you that well 2 days after you bought it? This is the classic plague of the Emotionally Defined.
Ever made a really important decision, perhaps about a relationship or your health, or spent a lot of money, only to discover very soon after that it was a huge mistake? Chances are, you are emotionally defined. Had you waited through your wave, you would have known not to leave/stay/cut/buy or not. You would have made the perfect decision for you based on the Emotional Authority of you ESP.
If you have emotional definition, then you are NOT designed to make decisions in the moment. You gain your clarity when it comes to decision making with the benefit of time. You need to see out your entire wave. This may take anywhere from 24 hours to 48 hours or even longer in some cases, to be sure that you are making the call that is right for you and your energy.
But what if your ESP is white?
If you are undefined or open ( open is where there are no hanging gates, i.e. coloured lines coming off your ESP centre), then you are taking in the emotional energy of those around you. You are the true emotional empath.
You’re the one who knows what emotions others are experiencing just by being near them. This can come in really handy sometimes. It can be useful to know what sort of a mood your potential client or boss or beloved is in.
But of course, it has its challenges. Especially if you have an undefined ESP and you live with someone who has a defined one. You get to ride all their emotional waves with them, only AMPLIFIED!!!
You see where we are white in the chart, we take in other people’s energies and we amplify them. We make them even bigger!
Now this is fine, fun even, if the person or people you are with are high on their waves. But if they are low on their waves – not so fun!
It’s not you!
The most important thing for you to do in this situation is to recognise that it’s NOT YOU. These emotions you are feeling are not yours. They belong to someone else. You need to allow those waves of emotion to flow through you and out the other side. Don’t take them on. Don’t be responsible for them. You are not!
When you are alone, you feel naturally calm and serene.
You with your undefined or open ESP don’t need to wait through an emotional wave to make decisions. Your decision making authority will depend on what else is defined in your chart but in many cases, the undefined or open ESP person is designed to make decisions in the moment. If they wait to make a decision, it can be too late.
How understanding this information can help in relationships
What makes this information so valuable is understanding how emotions work for you and in particular, how you impact others or how others impact you.
Imagine you have a white ESP and both of your kids have defined ESP’s. You are consistently taking in their emotional energy. They’re not doing it to you. It’s who they are. There’s nothing wrong with them emotionally. There’s nothing wrong with you….. but it sure feels like there is. Knowing how to shield yourself from the kids’ emotions can be a sanity saver. And there are things we can do help moderate and even retrain those low emotional waves if we need to.
These combinations and permutations in families show up every day in my work as a Human Design Specialist. I see the emotionally defined people affecting the undefined ones when it shouldn’t be like that. I see the emotionally defined folk thinking there is something wrong with them because they are continuously on an emotional roller coaster.
There are some really useful strategies for making that ride easier and even enjoyable – certainly educational.
(If you don’t already have your own Human Design chart, you can get one from mybodygraph.com)
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