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We spend so much time trying to achieve perfection
or something like it. Most of us know it’s a futile effort, but we keep trying! Why is conforming to what society says a person should be so important? And why do we need to try to be someone else’s idea of perfect?
Lets define a word that gets used often these days and sometimes when a word comes into popular usage especially in “new thought” circles, we don’t stop to work out exactly what it means.
The word is; Conditioning.
Now you may know absolutely and completely what conditioning means but just in case you haven’t stopped to think about it, here’s a couple of definitions for you taken directly from Google Definition.
Have a significant influence on or determine (the manner or outcome of something) – synonyms – constrain, control, govern, determine, decide
Train or accustom to behave in a certain way or to accept certain circumstances – “our minds are heavily conditioned and cirucumscribed by habit” – synonyms – train, teach, educate, coach, tutor, guide, groom, drill, accustom, adapt, habituate, mould, inure. “our minds are heavily conditioned by habit”
We are all subject to conditioning from the time we are born.
We are conditioned by our parents, by our carers, by our pre-school teachers. We are conditioned by our Grandparents, by our school teachers (and the school system at large) and by our friends – and our friends parents! Some of the people who love us most are the most responsible for conditioning us. And the very same thing happened to them.
We are conditioned by television and film – by the shows, by the advertisements, by “Hollywood Perfection”. We are conditioned by marketing every single day in hundreds of ways.
We are conditioned by our environment – the quality of the air we breath, the food we eat, the electromagnetic stimulation we are subjected to. We are conditioned by ancestral beliefs and stories and I believe, by our past lives.
With a list like that, you can see how it’s virtually impossible to avoid being conditioned.
What effect does conditioning have on us?
It can prevent us from being who we were put on this earth to be. It clouds the definition of who we really truly are. Who we are at a soul level. It can make us believe we are who we are not. It shifts us out of alignment.
It makes us feel that we have to be a certain way; to conform to societal and behavioural norms. It suggests that we need to be more outgoing (or less) than we are. It tells us we should be prettier or neater or thinner or more organised than we are. Or perhaps, more rugged or less obsessive than we are.
It tells us we shouldn’t be so sensitive. We should use our heads for God’s sake! Or think before we make decisions. It tells us we should get out of our fantasy world and into reality. We should eat certain foods (either “healthy – whatever that means!” or “unhealthy – depending on what ad we’re watching or what food store we shop at”). It tells us we should be learning how to be leaders, that we shouldn’t provoke or shock people or…perhaps we should???
It tells us how we should push ourselves forward and get out there, sit down and shut up, sit still, be a self starter, be able to “get things done!”,
It tells us that we should “JUST FRICKIN DO IT!”
It even tells us how we should all be living in the moment. Really?
And the fact is, some of this is true for some of us and some of this is so wrong for us it can send us completely off our path.
So, how do we know the truth of who we are?
How do we know what is innate and so very natural to us? How do we know what we came here to do?
For most of my life, I had no idea. I spent years trying to work it all out and finished up way more confused than I was before I started.
Then I found Human Design.
It showed me what my most potent energies were. It showed me what I was driven to do. It showed me how I experienced my emotions and how I affected other people’s emotions. It confirmed for me that I really do “know other people” at a deep soul level – even before they open their mouths. I kinda always suspected this, but I didn’t have enough trust to believe it could be true.
It showed me how my struggles would be my greatest assets in my little game of life. It explained to me that yes, I was incredibly practical and organised in my own way. It also showed me that I was never ever ever going to be one to stick to a solid routine and with that, it explained why I seemed to lack true will power. And how that was ok.
And. So. Much. More.
Because that’s exactly what Human Design does.
It shows you who you are. It often comes as no surprise to people when I tell them what they are here for. At some deep level, they already know.
But sometimes I sit and wait while my clients compose themselves after I’ve told them something in their chart that they didn’t “know” about themselves but that feels oh so right.
There are sometimes tears after all those years; when something that they have had belted out of them (sometimes quite literally) or have continued to do in spite of dressing downs and ridicule often by the people who love them most has been shown to be what they are here to be do.
Often the reaction is laughter – I find it quite funny myself, that the most common reaction I get is to be laughed at. “Oh my God YEEESSSS!”, she giggles at me.
Or just outright joyous laughter at the understanding that someone actually sees who they are. “How can you Ros, who have never met me, know me better than someone I’ve known all my life knows me? Better even, than I know myself?”
Well actually Sweetheart, I don’t. But the chart does.
And it knows that you were born perfect.